So I realized I was a lesbian at 18, and came out to my mother when I was 19. Back when I was 18, I didn’t know myself at all and couldn’t even answer whether I liked Pepsi or Coke more until I started therapy. After three years of therapy with an amazing amazing woman, I know who I am.
I don’t like make-up. I never have.
I cut my hair short when I was 20 and have kept it there since. I like short hair because it doesn’t get in my face and it looks good on me. My hair cut is kind of Ellen Degeneres during her sitcom.
I prefer pants. I can’t cross my legs and hate pressing my legs together in a skirt.
After stumbling on the Peta website I became a vegetarian.
And I love birkenstock sandals.
I’m a feminist–bring on the Indie music about female empowerment and the Vagina Monologues.
I can’t dress myself to save my life–I ask friends for help.
My Mom says I’m just trying to fit into the lesbian stereotype, but really I’m not. I’m just being who I am and if that happens to fit in with the stereotype it’s pure coincidence.
Any thoughts?
Tags: Frustrated, lesbian, Stereotypes.
I think it’s a biological thing that draws lesbians to Birkenstocks. LOL j/k
why worry about it? we all fit into one stereotype or another, depending on how people perceive us and which attributes they choose to focus on over others.
lol…you could also point out to your mother that this is just one of the many lebian stereotypes, perhaps she would like to choose another for you after re-examining some of your other traits?
I know several assuredly straight women that meet one or more lesbian stereotypes.
What really screams out at me by your description isn’t necessarily “lesbian” — it is “unconventional.” A lot of people don’t follow what their heart truly desires because they want to fit a certain social mold, or have their goals and dreams decided for them by popular culture and tradition.
Being a lesbian, you are already outside of the “social norm” of mainstream society. Coming out, you have seen how great being true to yourself can be. Therefore, you realize that you don’t need social acceptance or to “fit in” to be happy.
Now, if you were doing things in order to fit into the lesbian “scene,” I would say yes, you are trying to fit a stereotype.
Not a lesbian stereotype simply anti uber hetero/femmi stereotype. Or should I say a norm which dictates that to be acknowledged as a female one has to adhere to this almost unachievable state of womanly perfection which even Hollywood A listers cannot reach unless they are air brushed in photos until they do not recognise themselves. Welcome to the ranks of ordinary girls and women, comfortable the way we look, act and in what we believe!
Sounds pretty stereotypical for a butch.