My mom and dad are divorced and I live with my dad. He pays my mom about $400 each month for like child support or something (I’m not really sure for what) and my mom makes only a little less than he does. Well whenever I need anything my dad will buy it for me. He buys me clothes and groceries and shoes. My mom doesn’t. When ever I tell her I need something she says that she can’t afford it. Here’s a great example: the doctor told me to get a pair of Birkenstock sandals (if you know what those are, they are basically sandals that are really good for your feet) because I’ve broken my right foot and left ankle and they still bother me even now they they are healed. Well my mom owns three pairs and she doesn’t even need them. She wasn’t willing to buy me one pair, my dad did. For Christmas my dad got me a laptop for school. He takes me and my sister to nice places on vacation like Chicago and wants to take us to NY this summer, my mom has only taken us to cheap hotels in Detroit and Indiana (we live in a suburb of Detroit). My mom has been to Mexico in the summer with her boyfriend and yet never takes us nice places like that. I needed bras and she wouldn’t get them for me so I had to have my dad buy them. She has cable TV and a new car and my dad has an old car and no cable. She spends money on that and yet when I need clothes she says she can’t afford them or won’t buy them because she says I don’t need them.
What should I do? I have tried talking to her and telling her what I just said and she won’t ever listen. My dad has even talked to her about it several times and still she won’t listen. She tells my dad that he spoils us and really he does, but me and my sister are so grateful for everything he does for us and he knows that. We don’t ask to be spoiled by him but he does anyways. It’s not fair that he has to buy us everything and my mom won’t buy us anything. Whenever we talk she just won’t listen. What can I do to get through to her? She will say it’s her money and she can spend it how she wants but we are her children! How can I make her understand that she is selfish and she has to provide for her children? How can I force her to see that she is being unfair to me and my dad?
Thank you
I just find it really unfair how my dad has to do everything. And she does have the money, she just choses to spend it on stuff that she doesn’t need for herself. She does have money, my dad said so and he’s really mad about it all too. He feels the same way I do.
Hey, the $400 a month might be spousal support. I’m sorry you feel this way but you’re blessed to have such a lovely father. Remember him this father’s day
It’s a possibility she really can’t afford it. $400 a month isn’t a lot of money. Two kids. Water bill, light bill, food, rent (or house payment), cable, internet. Bills add up fast. Just continue to be grateful for what your father is doing. You don’t know your mothers financial situation, so just be understanding.
Honey that sad part is that some times you the child has to be the adult.
Yes you definitely sound very spoilt, but that is at the choice of your father. . And that is not the obligation of your mother to follow suit if she cannot afford to do so. . .
Now with that being said, I bet there is something you do not know . . . (nor do we) but, accept your mother for what she is not what she can buy you. . . Her morals sound that of very selfish. You will never get through to her. sorry kiddo . . . .
Good luck
First of all, why do you want your mother to buy you stuff?
You live with your dad. Your dad is a good man. He will take care of you. Don’t worry about your mother.
Your mother seems to be under a tight budget. She seems immature to fly to Mexico with her boyfriend and waste her money on little material things instead of spending it on you.
If I were you, I would become close with your dad. If you ever needed anything, I’m sure he would get it for you.
If your mom doesn’t, then you can’t do anything about it. Your only a minor.
Besides, trust karma. One day the table will flip, and she might be turning to you for money.